a study in FUN! (huhhuh!)

[lathriel]

So I got lots of stuff to do and what am I doing? this. Oh, path of least resistance, how I despise you. I should be learning more mots francais or reading for my complementary therapies class or writing or getting my oil changed or sending out those SURPRISES for my friends or working on my drawing class (easy 4 credits) projects or reading up on the ancient art of bonsai or buying my supplies for my drawing class or something.
but, alas, I still find myself clicking away and staring into this two dimensional screen.

so.

how do you end a friendship? any advice? if you're reading this it's not about you.

Comments

[k-raa.livejournal.com]

is this pertaining to the illusive zoe? she emailed me 2 days ago and it was blunt and just like hey sorry for not calling you.i was lazy. andi thought oh well thats nice ..

[lathriel.livejournal.com]

yes, yes it is.
and when it comes right down to it, I just don't like her any more.
I don' even caaaaaare

[k-raa.livejournal.com]

hey.
i dont know why i never see you on the L, i still live on bedford. I have a lot of 9:00's this semester, so im there at like 830. anywaay, yeah. you dont have to be hostile, kaitlyn. (thats how i interpreted your use of cursing) seriously. anyway i have a miollion things to do right now.

Zoë

.. that was the email she sent back to me after her lame apology and i wrote her back blah blah "gimme a fuckin call why dontcha"..but i dont know why i wrote that cuz id rather she didnt call.. shes lost it a long time ago

[lathriel.livejournal.com]

WTF? "you don't have to be hostile, kaitlyn. seriously." sewiosly

Zoe Lavatelli <zoelavatelli@hotmail.com> wrote:
hey hows it going?
i was sad that we didn't Really get a chance to talk over break. Sorry
about christmas, of course, i was very drunk.
well i must go,
but hey--
w/b

zoë

yours was still longer than mine. This is my response (very eloquent in my oppinion):

Zoe--

I can't really say that I agree with you. I don't think you were sad that we didn't get a chance to talk over break, because I honestly believe that me and you talking is of very little importance to you. The brevity of your email shows as much, since I'm aware that you have remained in contact with Essie since last summer through emails and you did call her while you were home on Thanksgiving break. It's not that I'm jealous, I'm just pointing out that it's plain to see you value her friendship far more than mine. And while we have been good friends over the years, it seems to me that we are growing apart. And that's okay.
We all have very busy lives and are heading down different paths with new and different people, and I would not ask you or Kaitlyn or Essie to throw that away so us middle school buddies could be "friends 4eva." But in some cases it's clearer than others where our loyalties lie, and yours have been only to yourself for a long time now. You do only what you see as beneficial for you, and often completely disregard other people and how your actions affect them. (Keep in mind Zoe that the four of us have been friends, collectively, for almost seven years, so when one thing happens to one person, the other three inevitably find out) I can not condone either side of the story concerning Kaitlyn, whether you never got her messages but still never called or if you purposefully didn't call her back when she needed you. Why are you anything significant to a "friend" if she can't even count on you to listen to her bitch when her life is going to hell? That's what friends do. And if you treat her that way, you might just treat us all that way; how are we to know when to trust you?
I'm not trying to make you mad or give you a piece of my mind. I wanted to give you a response to your email since we have been friends for years, and as such you deserve the dignity of a reply. I didn't want to just ignore it. But I gave it a lot of thought and it wasn't easy to decide to be honest and tell you this. I just don't think that the people you and I are now are anywhere near as companionable as we were two years ago.
Given the circumstances- distance, time, priorities, personalities- I find myself with no choice but to realize that you and I are no longer friends and it would be pointless and shameless to pretend as much. I wish you the best of luck in your life and hope you are successful in whatever it is you choose to do.

-Maddie




of course, I haven't sent it yet. i'm still debating whether to be more mean or more nice.

[k-raa.livejournal.com]

thats an amzing response to her ridiculously apathetic email , i dont know what made her all of a sudden feel obligated to write these half assed apologys..but its a very honest response